The Top 3 Excuses for Not Chasing Your Dream (and Why It All Comes Down to Fear)

For the longest time, I wouldn’t chase my dream. I’d regularly give objections for why I wasn’t doing what I was meant to do. And it ate me up inside.

Why We Don't Chase Our Dreams

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We all face the same excuses in moving towards our dreams, and when we stare those enemies down, they become powerless — or at least a lot less intimidating. Here are the top three excuses we use for not chasing our dreams.

“I don’t know what it is.”

This really means, “I don’t have it all figured out yet.” Which is another way of saying, “I’m human.”

Join the club. Who does have it all figured out? The idea that “you just know” what you’re supposed to do with your life is a myth. You don’t just know. You act, anyway. Discovery is a product of decision. Your dream will appear when you take action.

“I’m not ready.”

This just isn’t true. You’re more ready than you think. Your whole life has been preparing you for what’s to come. What’s easy for you isn’t easy for everyone. The things you find effortless and easy are sometimes clues to your calling.

When you begin to answer those clues, clarity comes. So does confidence. No, it’s not easy but you don’t need to have it all figured out. You can act on what you know. And in that respect, you’re always ready for something.

“I can’t afford it.”

The world doesn’t owe you anything, and money doesn’t always follow passion. You’ll have to work to earn your keep when it comes to chasing a dream, and it won’t always be easy or lucrative.

But in the end, the sacrifice will be worth the journey. And it costs far less than you think to take the first step.

What’s really behind the excuses

When we say these things are keeping us from our calling, what we’re really saying is we’re afraid. And that’s completely understandable.

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Fear is a normal reaction to decisions that require change. But what I’ve learned from those who’ve found their dreams is they never stopped feeling fear.

Courage isn’t about overcoming fear. It’s about doing it afraid.

While we’re on the subject of fear, have you considered an even greater fear than that of failure or rejection? What happens if you stay stuck doing something you were never meant to do, if you settle for a life that is comfortable and good — but not great? What if you succeed at the wrong things?

Fear isn’t always a bad thing. The trick is to fear the right thing. Don’t be afraid of losing; be afraid of playing the wrong game. And I think we can all agree that staying stuck in a job you hate, complaining about your situation and saying you don’t know, aren’t ready, or can’t afford it is not the right game.

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Want to Know What You’re Meant to Do? Listen to Your Ache

Recently, I met an ex-musician who told me every time he sees a band perform, he feels an ache. It actually hurts him to listen. Why? Because it reminds him of the pain of an un-lived life.

Listen to the ache

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I know that ache.

It used to come every time I read a book or saw a speaker step up on stage. Whenever faced with someone sharing their gift, I would feel it. Late at night or early in the morning, it would tease me, telling me I was missing out, taunting me for not answering my calling.

And for the longest time I made the mistake of ignoring it.

At times, I think, we all feel this ache. It aggravates us only because we know what we’ve done to ourselves. We’ve listened to the adult in our heads instead of the child in our hearts. And when we do this, we lose.

Because adults rarely have time for sidewalk chalk and dance parties and whimsy. They tend to quash impractical ideas and dissuade you from risk. Call me naive, but I think you need to listen to that child — at least long enough to know what you’re meant to do.

“What wrecks you?” I heard a preacher once say. “What bugs you? What can you just not stand? These are clues to your calling.”

Turns out, he was right. The broken things you notice are precisely the problems you’re meant to fix [tweet]. It took me a long time to do this, to pay attention to my ache, but once I did, things started to align.

And what I learned, what I think we all learn, is that nothing is wasted. Everything in life is leading to a moment that’s to come. It’s all preparation — a wonderful redemption of what we thought were long-lost dreams.

Now that I’ve come in contact with my calling, I know that the difference between a fulfilled life and one full of regret is whether or not you listen to that ache. Whether you pay attention to that unsettled feeling and finally realize all is not right with the world until you stop hiding your gift.

So I have one very simple question for you: as Mary Oliver once wrote,

Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?

In other words: What’s your ache? What unsettles you, like a concert messes with my musician friend? That’s a clue to your calling. Do something today to share your gift, and let it begin with leaving a comment. Feel free to promote whatever you’re working on in the comments.

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5 Important Elements Of Success People Seldom Mention

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You might be expecting me to write something basic about patience, integrity, humility, honesty, discipline, and other qualities that might make up a successful person. If you’re looking for an article like that, you’ll find them everywhere. This article is different. It’s not meant to talk about one word or one quality of successful people in a generic sense and re-define what those things mean for you. This articles purpose is to help you re-define what your personal success is and how you define yourself.

There are elements of success people seldom mention, and sometimes those things have nothing to do with the present or the individual. Below, feel free to read about those five elements.

1. Your job isn’t your success.

You are your success, and what you’re successful in will vary. It doesn’t have to be your job. It could be your family, it could be your volunteer work, or your community service.  Success is multi-faceted.  In addition, your job may not be a direct reflection of you, your greatest strengths, or the best use of your time. Your job might not enable you to contribute to the world in a way you would like, yet so many people define themselves by their jobs, or their next big promotion. Success is a lifestyle and an attitude.

2. Failure is going to happen to you. Just because you fail at something, doesn’t mean you are a failure.

I’ve only failed one class in my life: geometry. I did my best, and I tried hard, enrolling in tutoring and after school classes to help boost my grade. Failing, I thought, would be unacceptable and earth-shattering. I thought I’d be too embarrassed to ever be able to discuss it, l and yet here I am. Do you know what I learned? I learned it wasn’t the end of the world. I learned what I wasn’t good at. I learned where I was weak and I used those insights to make myself stronger and better educated about myself.

Failure is nothing more than useful feedback. You don’t have to be the best at everything to be the best at something. Sometimes we learn from the things we do poorly or the things we fail to do moreso than the things we excel in.

3. People will always see your successes. They may never know about your sacrifices.

There will always be people who think you had it easy. There were always be people who identify with you and think you had it rough. They are both wrong, and the answer is usually somewhere in the middle and defined by the individual. The truth of the matter is, no one else is going to really know how much you had to give up or overcome to get to where you are. It’s easy to think being successful is easy when the version of you people are seeing is the person who made it through the storm.

When push comes to shove, their opinions don’t matter. What matters is what you think and feel about yourself. When you feel good about yourself and your own unique purpose in life, everything falls into place.

4. There are people who aren’t going to think you’re successful, no matter what you think of yourself or how you feel.

Ignore people like this. They are usually miserable themselves. There will always be people who like to gossip or speak poorly of someone else trying to get by and follow their dreams. People will tell you your goals are stupid, your dreams are unrealistic, and the money won’t follow. Sometimes they are right, and sometimes they are wrong. The only thing that matters is that you don’t base your final choices off of them.

5. Sometimes it’s about who you know.

In some respects, certain types of success have to do more with who you know as opposed to how hard you work, hustle, or study. Many people will tell you so long as you work hard, anything is possible, and while anything being possible is true, it isn’t always probable. Sometimes people have a better time, or easier time because they have good mentors or they knew the right people or joined the right clubs or had the right connections. Sometimes success is a collaborative effort, not just something we become on our own.

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The Kind of Platform You Should Be Building

A couple years ago, I left the country. With 19 other people, I spent five days traveling through Guatemala, serving local NGOs that were improving the lives of those living in poverty.

The Kind of Platform You Should Be Building

Halfway through the trip, I looked around in awe. We 20 strangers gathered together for a purpose bigger than ourselves to do work that wasn’t about us, leaving each person changed through the process, including me.

How did all this happen? One word: Platform.

This group of people had connected to each other and to me through a blog, and then a book that I wrote a few years ago. And now we were in another country, doing things we never would have imagined: sleeping in hostels; taking cold showers; touring the city dump and embracing the sick, diseased, and downtrodden. All because of a platform.

The experience rocked me to my core and gave me the perspective I needed to appreciate what a platform is really supposed to be about.

What does this mean for you?

Everyone has something to say. I believe that with all my heart. And in a noisy world full of distraction, we need a way to way to get heard, a way that is not completely about us. That’s called a platform.

A platform is exactly what it sounds like: It’s a stage on which we stand to share our message. It’s not an end to itself (i.e. “Hey, look at me and how great I am!”). But rather, it’s a means to an end.

We don’t build a platform so the world thinks much of us. We build a platform so we can change the world.

Or at least, that’s why we should.

For a long time, I didn’t understand this. I had a blog nobody read. Nobody was changed by my word, and no one thanked me for my words. After years of failure, I threw my hands up in frustration and wondered, What was I doing wrong?

Don’t make it all about you

People are smarter than most marketers think. They can tell when you’re trying too hard or when you’re presenting a cleverly-presented pitch that helps you more than it does them. And that’s what I was doing with my first foray into social media.

I was making it all about me.

My blog was about getting other people to like me. It was about attention and accolades. I would chase fame, no matter what the cost, sacrifice or compromise anything just to be known. It was pathetic, but I couldn’t seem to help myself. And no surprise: the blog failed.

It wasn’t until I quit my blog and started over that I learned the ever-important lesson of focusing the attention away from myself. And that’s when things began to change. Turns out, when you make your platform about other people, they’ll make it about you.

And when you build an audience sharing a message that matters, you can change the world.

Here’s your challenge

We all are building a legacy. With our words and actions, we are making our mark on the world, one way or another. So why not create a legacy that will endure, one that gives more than it takes?

Whatever stage you’re building — be it a blog, a business, or a butcher’s shop (sorry, just had to keep with the alliteration) — make it about someone else.

You don’t have to be huge; you just have to be helpful.

Ask questions, offer solutions, see what a difference you can make. Because the truth is we don’t find our purpose in life by looking in the mirror, staring at ourselves. We find it by looking out the window at a world in need.

So, dear friends, it’s time to open up our eyes and decide what kind of platform we ought to be building. If you need help getting started, check out my free guide to launching a blog. Just click the link below (it’ll take you through a step-by-step tutorial on launching a self-hosted WordPress blog on any budget).

Click here to learn how to launch a blog that can change the world.

And if you already have a blog, it’s time to share! Leave a comment below with a link to a blog post you’re proud of.

How are you using your message to help others? Share a recent blog post in the comments.


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Attributes and Procedure of Getting CPD Accreditation Status

The term Common Professional Development (CPD) is a well organized approach to acquiring the pre determined specialized education, knowledge, practical training practice for pursuing a certain profession that is mandatory in many countries including the UK. CPD requisites can pertain to several professions such as medical, judicial, research and fellowship programs, logistics and transport etc. as per the regulations in an institution or governmental laws. For instance, according to the CPD rules in practice in England and Wales, a legal executive or solicitor executing full time legal practice in the country (working 32 hours or more in a week), needs to complete at least 16 hours of CPD every year that will earn them 16 CPD points.

Obtaining CPD Accreditation

There are several authorized organizations that offer CPD accreditation programs. Before you proceed to acquire your accreditation it is mandatory to complete your CPD program with minimum attendance fulfillment, participation in several activities as a registered college/university candidate etc. Completing this formality will bestow the recognition of an accredited CPD provider status. More or less the following procedures are adopted by all major organizations that offer independent CPD accreditation to a professional.

Application: The first step is to register and apply for an independent CPD provider accreditation status. While applying the candidate will have to submit proof of attending the CPD program, details, of participation in activities, hours completed etc.

Review: The institute awarding accreditation will take about a month of time to review the certificates and credential submitted to verify the authenticity of the documents before processing the application to the final stage where the accreditation awarded to the CPD provider.

Accreditation Awarding and Conditions: The final stage is the accreditation awarding when the candidate is assigned a particular date when he will receive the status of accredited independent CPD provider and gain the privilege of promoting himself in the professional domain to set a milestone in his career. He will then have the facility to approach potential clients or join any institute as an accredited member. To ensure that the accreditation remains valid for lifetime, keep updating it as and when there are any changes in the terms and conditions introduced in the regulations of the particular profession.

  • Gain better client prospects as an established accredited professional
  • Beat the competitors in the professional world and get exposure to premium career opportunities
  • Explore the new job opportunities for which you meet the criteria of accreditation requirements
  • Build a network of clientele with whom you can keep pursuing your profession with peak high progress

The CPD obligations are formulated in accordance with requirement of the essential and advanced skills and education to pursue any said profession with complete accuracy. Many organizations have strict codes for CPD fulfillment of the all the recruits. However the independent professionals not yet associated with any organization or enterprise, in their own interest can opt for taking CPD to ease out their way to getting hired and setting firm foot in the professional world.

Apprenticeships are also another route you can go down and with Gordan Franks Birmingham apprenticeships it is easier than ever before.